If you want to spice things up in the bedroom, sometimes role play is the way to go. Don’t think that it’s silly or ridiculous – if you let yourself get into it, you might find that it’s fun, sexy and really exciting.
If you are new to the idea of role play, it might be hard to think about how to get into it. You might feel silly at the mere thought of playing like this in the bedroom.
Here are four tips to making it work and keeping it fun.
- Talk to your partner
Don’t decide on your own that it’s time to bring role playing into the bedroom. Talk to your partner about your desire to have some role playing fun and make sure that he or she is into it as well.
If you feel silly about it, watch some videos that incorporate role playing or create scenarios with each other that help you get into the mood and think about how fun it will be.
- Anticipate the fun
The most exciting thing about role playing is the ability it gives people to literally step into another role. If you are usually shy in bed, you can take on the role of the dominant headmistress or the stripper. Neither of these ladies is shy in bed! You can simply take on the more dominant or assertive role and have fun with it. This makes for much more exciting bedroom time.
- Pick the right roles
Think about the various options available and then pick roles that sound fun to both of you. For example, you might be a stripper and your partner might be the very horny client who really wants a good lap dance.
Your partner might be a photographer and you are the model. Perhaps the man is the fireman and the woman is trapped inside a house (perhaps nude or only in sexy lingerie). Maybe one of you is a teacher and the other a student. That’s an illicit match-up that can be fun.
If you really begin to enjoy role play, you can switch up roles and enjoy the various possibilities when you play all roles.
- Understand the rules of role play
First, make sure that you and your partner are on the same page. Understand the roles each of you will be playing and agree to play along.
Be flexible. Go along with the costume that your partner chooses and be willing to try new things to keep within the role play scenario. If things get uncomfortable or even dangerous, be sure to have a good communication system in place so you can let your partner know that you need to change things up.
Dress the part. Don’t forget the costume that fits your role, but remember things like toys and lingerie. If you are the stripper, for example, you will only be wearing sexy lingerie, so make sure it’s great. If you are the teacher, you might be wearing conservative clothing, but you want to make sure that you have something sexy on underneath so when you start taking off clothing, there’s an exciting reward underneath.
Role play can add excitement and diversity into your lovemaking. Try some tonight and see how much fun you can have.